i wish i could sit down with you and a few beers and explain it cuz it would take all night.
in a nutshell: we are conditioned to blame others to make us easier to control. This begins when we're children and for must of us continues through our working life until we're dead. A nation full of complainers is easier to ignore and run than a nation of people utilizing the nation's resources directly. (As Herman Hesse said, "A teacher would rather have a classroom full of donkeys than a single genius.") Just watch a group of grumbling work employees scatter when the boss comes around instead of grouping together to tell him/her how they really feel.
however, some of us learn to take responsibility for our own reactions. I now no longer have anyone else to blame for my own negative feelings (since watching a Jack Canfield video about 5 months ago. I tried to find it on the 'tube for ya just now but there are too many). Many might think this is bad, but just as Jack suggests, my mind simply works toward improving my situations instead of bitching about them. Instead of bitching about crappy music, I design new instruments.
I could go on and relate to you about all the screwed up examples of people I've seen, who set themselves up for the One Big Trauma they can milk for the rest of their lives for shallow sympathy for their con games, but I'm gonna take a sweet bike ride before the sun goes down and I've already given enough advice. peace, bastardus carborundum and all that.