I am not opposed to picking a framework, I'm opposed to make your app a "framework" app just because that's the default state of things. You can certainly pull things into smaller chunks that are loosely coupled, so maybe you use something like Rails for the view, your app is plain old ruby, and you use MongoMapper or Sequel for the DB, but the communication between those layers is done by sending messages, not by hard linking, so that the front or back end can be removed.
Rails all of a sudden is terrible? Switch the routing/views/controllers to Sinatra. Want to move over to something Java based, you can still use a bunch of your core app code via JRuby and maybe slice out bits into Java/Scala over time. Want to switch from Mongo to Postgres, swap out the database module.
My point is, the switching cost doesn't have to be an entire codebase rewrite to move from one thing to another. It only exists that way because the default framework path is tightly coupled by default.
As to if people should use Obvious? Well it's just a pattern of how you put code together. It's not a framework and it's not the only way for people to get the same benefits. I don't care if people use it or not. Use Hexagonal Architecture or Onion Architecture or DCI or whatever the flavor of the week is. It doesn't matter.
The point is, your code doesn't have to be tightly coupled to any framework. There are good options and patterns out there and just defaulting to any particular framework's defaults will lead you down the same path as the OP.