I wasn't questioning that it happens I said "there is no question you are subject to the actions you (and others describe)"

I was saying that there are times that it happens that have nothing to do with skin color and would happen (maybe the waiter is having a bad day who knows) to anyone.

Like the man in the car next to me (assuming he is not gay) if I was a hot girl I would automatically assume it's because I'm a hot girl. Of course this is not the same as saying that men don't look at a girl in the car next to them!