Statism is the belief that a government should control either economic or social policy, or both, to some degree. Statism is believe the state should exist, any person that support the state, even a minimal state is a Statist.

>You want to make everything you do voluntary yet think that it will somehow lead to a world where everything is rainbows and unicorns,

Not at all, infact it is statists that believe in Utopia, believe that if they use "just enough violence" they can force everyone to behave as they want.