In other words, the road to a healthy utopia of happy people on bikes is not to compromise, but to accept all of the cyclists' demands while completely ignoring the motorists' complaints.
Also, it’s you – the motorist – who is moving around the several ton metal monster so of course you have the responsibility to make sure not to hurt any of the squishy meatbags around you. That just always seemed obvious to me. Keep a good car’s width distance to bikes when overtaking them (and not overtaking them if there is no space for that) and so on. (Also, I don’t know how the laws are in the Netherlands, but at least in Germany it isn’t so dramatic. Yeah, you are always responsible for keeping pedestrians and bikers safe but your liability is limited in certain ways.)
My personal experience from living and biking in both Copenhagen and London is that that word - demands - sets a very adversarial tone that is not at all helpful in London. No-one talks about cyclist's "demands" in Copenhagen, but they are well accommodated in city planning because there are a lot of them (of course, there's a chicken-and-egg thing here). In London, the organised cyclists come off as extremely militant and righteous and I have no difficulty believing that's a turnoff for plenty of people, ultimately hurting the cause.