The cost of hustling
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Now i consider 10+ hours of MY time to be worth WAY more than £500 due to what i can earn doing my usual consulting and also because i dont want to deal with douchebags like him, and what i make per year is insignificant compared to the company that he helps to run, so i never understood why the hell he's kicking up shit over a damned cleaning bill. Infuriated me to no end.
Now i only have clients that pay their automatically issued invoices every month without issue, they're happy and i'm happy, i get my beer money and i can concentrate on my consulting instead of my side business.
One interesting thing about hardcore hagglers, they tend to be dumb. They don't actually know what anything is worth, they just want to win. They're more concerned with how much they can claim to have saved than what they're actually paying.
Big companies take maximum advantage of this by setting a hugely inflated "list price" at 2-4x or more of a fair price. This enables them to provide large "discounts" which make the hagglers feel they've won while paying above fair price. This has the additional advantage of setting a discount watermark in the haggler's mind that everyone else will be expected to meet.
If you are bootstrapping something, it is critical to be able to say no at this point and not follow along, since so many things can eat your time.
Some level of social skill and empathy is also required for the "asking" portion, too...
The real problem is that you kept continuing the conversation, even though you said no. That probably gave the individual some sort of hope that they could convince you otherwise.
I let him know that I had set up a filter to route his email address to trash and that he would never hear about me again.
I personally would recommend against doing things like this. Don't tell them you're going to do it, just set and forget. ;)
That's quite a harsh judgment - I think the hustler is generally aware that they are on the losing end of the power dynamic, and that is what requires the hustle (partly to prove their eagerness/enthusiasm), but their self worth is definitely not zero as this would cause them to just shut up and not bother. I see hustle as an attempt flex muscle by the weaker person in the negotiation.
Hustlers are, I think, more like those really pushy boyfriends who you go out on one date with and then they try to call you 15 times an hour. Same sort of behaviour -
"ME ME ME, MY WANTS OVER YOUR RIGHT TO BE LEFT ALONE! LISTEN TO ME! PAY ATTENTION TO ME!"
I suppose you could consider that a form of insecurity. But if it is, it's insecurity coupled with incredibly strong selfishness.
not really. One of my favorite results from pysch research was that large, physically aggressive men are not in fact covering up insecurity. In general, they tend to have very good self esteem.
Which frankly makes sense. Why? Because few people want to step to a large, physically aggressive guy and tell them they have some stupid ideas. Real life example: any NFL pre-game show. These guys are sling blade level stupid yet they have incredibly high opinions of themselves.
I'm afraid therefore that I'd have to conclude it's a poorly-thought out article.