The feminist narrative is that women would like a bit of consent with their sex, thank you very much. That includes eye sex.
as rape is to sex,
nonconsensual leering is to hot eye sex./edit
Looking a somebody and having sex with sombody is as far apart for me as a hand shake and a MMA fight: the polar opposite sides in the spectrum of social interaction.
And yeah, that means for most people who aren't putting in the unusual effort, most nominally mutual intercourse is somewhere from slightly to heavily contaminated, depending on things like "how abusive is the relationship?". Call that what you will.
This was interesting: