Ask HN: How do you manage a relationship when obsessed with your work (or play)?

My experience has been that if you're obsessed with work (or play), then find a relationship where the other is obsessed with work (or play). Hopefully, similar work. (So you can understand what each other are talking about.)

Outside of that, most non-obsessed people expect you to give them a healthy chunk of your time and attention. If you're unable, or unwilling to do that, there is little else you can do to ensure that both of you will have what you desire as a healthy relationship. One of the two is going to get short-changed.

I just share moments and enjoy it. She has her needs, like anyone else, dinning, watching a show, etc. I try to make everyday 2 o 3 hours of full atention then i go to my stuff. It works for me.

Some days you may lend more hours but other days you will be free from them.

The other solution is plain simply: return to single state. No need to waste time on anything more than, you.

Thanks for your comments. I am the non-obsessed party. I am glad to hear your points of view @drone and @meerita. I am sure my bf feels similarly.

Relationships are not meant for Unichs.