I'm assuming you've never known anyone go through that. It's a personal tragedy, not an intellectual issue.
And there goes my karma down in 3,2,1,...
The problem is: there's no good words to use, because they've been co-opted by political positions and value judgements. "Baby" indicates you're anti-abortion, "foetus" indicates you're pro-abortion. I went for pregnancy, because that implies the "potential to be a baby".
"Terminate" has the same problem. What are the alternatives? "Abort" is pretty much taken by the pro-lifers. It's such an emotive issue that in the UK, where there is no broad based political movement that wishes to outlaw it, medical professionals don't even have a word for it. They have words for specific procedures like EPRC, and as far as I can tell they change those terms every couple of years. And of course, the terminology is the same whether the pregnancy is still ongoing or not.
Someone saying: "Don't hit me, please" is also an argument from emotion.
Also, when arguing if something is in a particular spirit, it's appropriate to discuss emotions and principles.
This is basically what happened:
A: That seems dangerously close to eugenics, in that it's weeding out people with bad genes.
B: Oh yeah? If you distorted your view by listening to crying moms who agree with me (and not similar weepers on the other side), you'd agree with me.
Me: Argument from emotion.
Eugenics is relatively easy to judge: you can get all the facts. Individual decisions are always harder: you don't know the full circumstance. I'm not saying that their aren't abortions made for obscene reasons (terminating girls is an obvious example), but not all are.