"Love depends on your having caring family/friends" This is something I have never had until recently when I met my girlfriend. Even to this day, and even if I had something really important to talk about to my parents, I couldn't get their ear for more than 1 minute without losing their interest. They've always taught me to deny my feelings, and have never really listened to me. I guess if I was smarter I would have dealt with it better, but sadly I am not. Thank you, I am keeping in mind what you said about patience and love. These are both things my current girlfriend has, and I found myself strongly attracted to her for these qualities. I cry often when I think of her because I am so grateful for her kindness and patience with me. She is the first person in the world (irl) that has actually listened to me.

You know, I think if I could earn 40k per year coding, it would take the pressure off for me. I've never started just because I never thought I could compete with the naturals that went to MIT and represented Will from Good Will Hunting, but maybe I've just been blowing things out of proportion. I've always been able to figure things out, and I did earn a degree in engineering (although not CS) and rise in the company ranks, so I must be somewhat useful. I guess I never give myself any credit either. Maybe I do have imposter syndrome like another user commented. I will make it a point to celebrate more and narrow down to just ONE thing a day for the meantime. Right now, I am so overwhelmed that I end up doing nothing. And it just perpetuated. Although I haven't properly replied to many of the comments here, it has really helped me just reading what people have suggested, and talking it out.