I wasn't homeschooled at all. I went to private school through high-school (around Charlottesville, VA, in case you're in that area) and then did public university. I went to school with some home schooled students. Some were good, some had issues. Most of them had at least a few social issues, but then, I think any way you sliced my high-school population, the majority of a given section had some issues; such is the nature of being in high-school.
The point is, this doesn't really tell you anything useful. I could tell you what my gut tells me about homeschooling, but that's not going to be especially useful either. Instead, I'll share two things that I think might actually be of some use to you on this issue.
One: you're asking a community of amateurs. The people on this website are, at least taken in aggregate, a standard deviation or two above the norm at what they're good at. However, I have met very few people who're particularly smart at everything. Instead, people are usually smart about a small number of things. The most wise people are usually wise enough to know they don't know squat about the rest. Therefor, I would suggest that there will be lots of well-meaning, reasonably smart people here, I'm not sure that the people who actually know what they're talking about are going to come out over the people who don't know enough to know they don't know what they're talking about.
And what makes it worse is that studies show, if you don't know much about this, you're going to have a hard time telling the know-it-alls from the know-nothings.
Two: you're asking a self-selected group about their experiences, and as we all know, the plural of anecdote is not data. Again, a lot of people on here are smart, and on top of that, highly (self-)motivated, people. These are good qualities that I'm sure you want to give your children, but you're probably likely to get more success stories about anything with a reasonable success rate here, given the population you ask. If I ask a room full of millionaires how many people eat raisin bran and I get a number of positive responses, I can't then conclude that iron and dietary fiber have a greater-than-average incidence of financial prosperity.
I'm not suggesting that it's not worthwhile to hear what people have to say about their experiences; I'm just urging you to take what you read with a grain of salt and to seek out data about homeschooling. Try to find non-biased studies on it, compare the costs to comparable options (Montessori, local alternative private schools), and then ultimately apply your best judgment.
Good luck!
For example, I've found that any random drop into the homeschooling literature is likely to land in a spot that includes a Christian values emphasis, and teasing out the diff is not exactly as easy as, well, diff.
I think home school is fine for primary school. once you get into middle and high school i am not as supportive. this may have been only my experience but i learn best when interacting with others - showing others what i learned and learning from others mistakes. this becomes more significant during middle school/high school as this is when more group tasks are assigned.
Interesting. My thoughts are nearly the reverse.
We home-schooled one kid for one year (1st grade [U.S. terminology]), when we had some problems with the public schools, and then put them in public school for all the rest of it. We are considering starting up home-schooling for all of them some time in the middle/high school years, since that is when peer influences can become problematic, and sometimes dangerous.
Me personally, my social interaction outside sports was so varied I became much more adept at interacting with older and younger people rather than my own peer group. As a child, especially in middle and high school, I was often frustrated by the "rules" of peer groups. Dealing with people younger or older let me treat them as people - and vice versa.
Consider bullying. I had to deal with bullies in jr. high & high school, because there simply was no way to avoid them. But after high school, I didn't go where the bullies were. Problem solved. Yes, there were bullies in elementary school, but they weren't really capable of doing much damage yet.
And there is a flip side: teenagers are protected from the consequences of their decisions. This is another reason for bullying: the bullies get away with it. But in the adult world, violent people can be fired, jailed, etc.
And bullying is just one issue of many.
So, yes, peer influences can be a problem throughout life; however I definitely do not see the adult world as being more dangerous, if you can't figure out how survive in the teen world. Certainly my own experience does not support that idea.
See also PGs essays on high school. I don't mean that he is supporting my ideas; rather he provides a good explanation of why high school is different from "the real world". Thus, I don't see that figuring out how to survive high school really gives one much in the way of practical life skills for the long term.
(I assume this is what you were asking about?)
We have 8 ranging from 25 down to 8, so it's still a big work in progress. ;-)
Some of our older kids have gone to (very demanding) colleges, others couldn't be bothered. Depends a lot on the person and his life goals and interests, of course.
The first thing that pops into my mind is 'Can't there be a hybrid?' A 10 hrs a week school or something like that. I'm not sure what exactly (if anything) would appeal to home schooling parents, but it seems likely that many of the trade-offs or difficulties would be overcome with a little bit of school.
Any thoughts on this?
- Many homeschool families will form study groups for some of the subjects less conducive to individual study (such as music or hard sciences) and will have a knowledgeable parent or outside teacher lead a class or two a week. In grade school I took a homeschooling drawing class taught by a former art teacher turned homeschooling parent. But that was my only experience.
- My local public high school had no problems letting me on campus for part of the day to take a couple classes. I took a lab science class, and was in the music classes every year.
- Some community colleges offer a "Running Start" program for high school students, and they don't care which high school you come from. So my senior year in high school I was at the local CC part time learning German, taking Chemistry and an English class.
There are also a wide variety of "official" homeschooling programs that have popped up recently. Either the curriculum is rubber-stamped, or they bring in certified teachers. I didn't take part in any of that as it wasn't required by law, and I/we didn't see a need.
So those are my experiences. YMMV widely by geography.
It was a problem when my parents threw me out soon after my 18th birthday, for dropping out of school. I had to get a miserable job, coding PHP for about the same amount of money my friend got stacking boxes in a warehouse. That was nothing unexpected, it just shows how much programmers are valued in my country.
The job made me depressed, unable to do anything. Not learn, nothing.
Now I'm working with a friend on a startup company, poised to solve all our problems, but I wouldn't say that's going so great either.
But I don't regret anything. School wasn't a good way of learning for me, and I will continue my education on my own, as soon as this company gets of the ground and I have some time.
You may also want to read College Without High School by Blake Boles, when available. See http://www.blakeboles.com/cwhs.htm
Feel free to email me at my username at gmail if you want to talk to a hacker who has unschooled and who works with hundreds of unschoolers every year.
Both school and home education have their strong points. If you have the time to do it, I recommend home education -- you'll never get your kids' childhood back, and there's no time more quality than teaching them all the good parts of the world.
You have to dance a lot harder, to make sure they have plenty of contact with people their own age. It's almost certain that there will be homeschooling groups in your new area in Virginia, so that takes care of that, depending on the vitality of the groups in question. But nowadays, in the States, it's not too hard to find social support networks for homeschoolers.
My parents at one time or another had me enrolled in just about every structured education scheme you can imagine, from reputable urban public school to shitty urban public school to expensive Catholic school to quaint small-town school to rural one-room schoolhouse to formalized home-school curriculum. I found them all stifling, boring, and wasteful of my time.
Unschooling, on the other hand, was very liberating. I got to study whatever I wanted, however I wanted. I dabbled in chemistry, electronics, literature, even carpentry. Once we got our first computer when I was 13, I dove into computing and programming utterly.
It worked out wonderfully for me. I had a paying job as a programmer when I was 15, and haven't looked back.
I was always introverted, so school was not a positive socializing experience for me; in fact it was quite the opposite. Despite concerns to the contrary, I've socialized myself over time through professional and personal relationships with co-workers and friends.
The most appealing outcome of my unschooling experience is the autodidactic learning style it reinforced. This comes in very handy as a software engineer, where the ability to independently pick up a new language, tool, technology, or architecture quickly and completely is a real asset.
I am the oldest of five children. All of us were homeschooled to some extent, with the proportion of homeschooling to structured education declining from oldest to youngest. We are all fairly bright, but the difference between those of us with more homeschooling and those with less is striking. The home schoolers are more eloquent, more insightful, more responsible, more disciplined, and more politically active (although not politically homogeneous, which makes for tumultuous dinner conversation at family get-togethers).
There is no doubt in my mind that unschooling had a massively positive net impact on my life, and would encourage any parents able to make the necessary time commitment to try it as well.
My mom now writes home-school curriculum and other helpful books, and speaks at conventions and such (maybe the one you're going to). If you have any VA-specific or general Q's, I'm sure she'd be happy to answer any questions. Her site's at http://everyday-education.com/.
With that said, the most critical phase of your child's education will be early childhood, namely grades K-5. A solid foundation during this period will pay significant dividends throughout their academic career. I'd consider weighing your options in terms of specialized private education if you're determined to give them the best start possible.
However, if your objective is religious and you desire to shield your children from the "secularism" in public schools, then by all means home school them.
Quite often my freshman and sophomore years I'd end up pulling stupid hours because I got sidetracked on some tangent in a textbook rather than learning "what I was supposed to", or whatever was going to be on the test.
Learning for a very specific reason, and within a very specific timeframe wasn't something I was used to.
That's arguably a pretty selfish way to evaluate things, but speaking as a K-12 homeschooled student, I think it's the best way to make the most of the options in front of you.
Reading and research is good. Carry on. :) You should read John Holt at some point.
I think homeschooling is easier the younger you start. Teens sometimes have a rough time making the transition.
Connect with other local homeschoolers. Interacting with other homeschooling families is good for kids and parents both. Helps you stay grounded and helps with the inevitable crises of confidence that happen from time to time.
Good luck!
Specifics vary. Whoever is the main hsing parent will certainly have days where nothing goes right and everyone quarrels. Several of those in a row and you'll wonder if hsing was the right choice. Sometimes parents get disappointed that their kid isn't learning fast enough or is resistant to teaching. If you lean toward unschooling, you'll probably wonder if that's really "enough" to equip your kids for college/adulthood. You may worry about inadequate socialization. Any area where your kid seems to be lagging behind his peers will probably cause you to question yourself.
Once you start homeschooling, it's all on you. It's a lot of responsibility. You'll worry, at least some.
From what I've seen, it's common for new homeschoolers to have a big crisis of confidence a few months in, for one reason or another. Some decide it's not for them at that point.
Lesser moments of anxiety occur more often. For some folks, nearly continuously. :) We worry about some thing or other every few months. Sometimes we make some changes to try to address it, sometimes we decide it's no big deal or at least nothing that needs immediate fixing.
Feel free to drop me an email if there's anything I can do to help.