> But there's an attitude amongst this type of person that says they are entirely not to blame for the harassment they get

They _are_ entirely not to blame for what they get. What they _are_ to blame for is their own behavior.

I don't have a problem with you saying that some people are irritating and do annoying things. What I have a problem with is the suggestion that they _share in the blame for what others do to them as a result_. There is a difference there, and it is an important one.

To be clear, I am going on the principle that a person is alone responsible for their actions, and not for those of others.