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I think its hard to make friends, because people only feel fulfilled when they are working. This is demonstrated by the fact all these billionaires are still working and they are not content to just be leisurely.

Therefore, the premise that you like baseball and I like baseball, so we should just hang out, will feel kind of pointless. That's why I don't think anyone has really nailed this market.

I think a better take on this would be, you want to publish a comic book, and I want to publish a comic book, so we should work on our projects and hang out. Or you want to run a 5K and I want to run a 5K so lets meetup and practice this together.

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> people only feel fulfilled when they are working

Some people do gain fulfillment primarily through work (especially the entrepreneurial crowd that frequents HN), but we should recognize that this is not universal.

Working could include raising children, or gardening or a lot of activities that one doesn't get paid for, but it is universal that a sense of fulfillment comes from laboring for something.

> it is universal that a sense of fulfillment comes from laboring for something

I'm not sure I can agree with this either, though it's hard to come up with universal truth statements when dealing with a concept as abstract as "fulfillment." I acknowledge that labor can be (and often is) fulfilling, but I wonder if other life philosophies (e.g. Buddhism) may approach fulfillment through other means.

One could argue that fulfillment in Eastern philosophies is still attained via the labor of contemplation, but the question then becomes whether the point was the labor or the resulting awareness.

They think they are making spiritual progress. They are doing some form of work: meditation, fasting, praying to try to achieve it. It's not idling or leisure activity.

You nailed it, this is where we are headed. Love to chat more about how you think we can get there.

May want to take a look at "atthepool.com" then.

My thoughts exactly.

I think something like, "I am going to be working on my comic from 7-9 at this coffee shop, broadcast this "ad" to people like comics that have the following characteristics [male | female | doesn't matter], politics [ x,y,doesn't matter]"

You sometimes could have an open ended invite, and sometimes you would have to have both parties agree to meeting before hand, like in the case of restaurant reservations.

I think that open ended invitations leave too much room for cancellation / a poor experience. But, perhaps other people might feel this is not an issue. Any feedback?

Depends on the activity. For example, I'm working on my novel at the coffeeshop. That is a good open ended activity. If no one shows up while I work on my novel, well that's fine, because I still got some work done.

But running around the lake is not an open ended activity, because I don't want to wait around for people to show up.

Also add a button, "Leaving for the activity now", or "I'm here at X" would be helpful.

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