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Recklessly Seeking Sex on Craigslist

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Craigslist personals, especially the casual encounters section, seem to be mostly spam and flagged content. You're better off going to a bar around closing time.

If the "casual sex is destroying the foundations of society" guy hits this thread please ignore him.

It isn't, but it can still be considered a bad behaviour and discussed as such.

Ever tried to attribute your sexual frustration to something? Do you attribute it to others getting laid more than you? Or maybe to the fact that everybody is just always talking about it?

I attribute mine to the fact that I haven't gotten laid in awhile.

I just attribute it to http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/bunny

What's up with all the "getting laid" threads on the front page the last couple of days?

Spring is in the air?

maybe b/c of sexual frustration? lots of hackers don't get laid that often. it is one of thing that eludes highly logical people, that getting laid is more art then science.

Actually, the problem is that people--even hackers--are too romantic. And the ones that aren't too romantic are often just too scared to really try.

If you are willing to let go of romanticism and fear, you can find algorithms for getting laid by searching Google. I personally know a few people that have implemented those algorithms and they all succeed frequently. I know a guy whose marriage was founded (unknowingly to his wife) on such Google-found advice.

There is a reason "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is one of the best-selling books of all time. Reading just that one book will get most people all the sex and "friends" they want if they follow its advice. I recommend everybody to try it if they are feeling really down on themselves or really frustrated. It can be a life-changing experience.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of downsides to reading an (e-)book about getting laid or making friends too. Sometimes you have to be careful what you wish for.

Care to give references of any such algorithms? ;-)

I feel like an idiot for even posting this, but WTH.

http://dl.btjunkie.org/torrent/Neil-Strauss-Style-The-Annihi...

There are some "algorithms" in there, but there's also a lot of discussion about how to apply them. Body language and execution is critical. The seminars on opening (introducing yourself to a group of strangers) are really interesting. I don't think there's a single way to do this, but there are probably a few important principles that always apply. (Be strong, trust yourself, don't be afraid to fail).

Ultimately, what makes nerds fail on subjects like this is just the fear of going out into the world and getting some experience. Attraction is a practical skill, you won't get anywhere by spending a lot of time researching on the internet. Actually, I wish I had a group of friends I could try this out with, but the patheticness and taboo of being a loser in this area isn't very easy to manage. There's no way I'm mentioning this to any of my existing friends.

I submit that hacking is also more art than science. Way more, even.

Can't go blaming my garden-variety social anxiety all on the left hemisphere, after all.

Huh. I wonder just how much of it has to do with not making an effort to be attractive rather than simply being logical.

Sure. Sexual frustration is a given. Although not just among hackers. I'm just wondering why there's been a confluence of similar articles in such a short space of time. I'm not complaining about the articles. I think they're all interesting. I just find the timing curious.

I think it's a kind of feed-forward system. If a person sees a couple sex-themed links on the front page, they are more likely to post another link with that theme.

I don't think that's a feed-forward system ... Sounds more like a positive feedback loop.

There is a damping effect at work also. At some point too many articles about a given topic brings a backlash and the topic is 'done' at least for a while.

Often times I'll read a good article here, which leads me to explore a topic further, which can lead to articles I think worthy of posting.

I'd imagine that is why we see things show up in clusters like this.

'Tis the season when a young man's fancy turns to thoughts of love.

What's up with all the "getting laid" threads on the front page the last couple of days?

Spring is in the air?

One explanation: It is quickly approaching the "First of May"

could be due to depression.

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