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I understand that I am responding to a sockpuppet troll, but if anyone else would like to explain how you come to that conclusion, I'd like to hear it.

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Well, I know a number of people like Tim in real life, and while they are great people, they can't hold long term relationships or be "close friends", because they are so focused on self-improvement/fulfillment that they just don't have the time for other people. They end up being more "James is in town - we should definitely head to the pub" friends more so than "James - I'm having a really tough time and I just need someone to talk too" friend.

I'm sorry you guys think this is trolling - but seriously, how does one dedicate their life to learning a new skill for three months straight when they have a family or close friends who depend on them? Its honestly something I struggle with when looking for guidance from guys like Tim.

I think you're making an interesting point. I wonder how many individuals that have achieved a high level of success in their careers (CEOs of Fortune 1000 companies, entrepreneurs of fast growth companies, etc.) have balanced that career success with a high level of achievement in their personal life (family and friendships). Can you manage to devote enough energy/time to work and life to achieve a high level of success in both? Is anyone aware of any role models?

Your premise seems to be that you cannot focus on yourself as well as on relationships at the same time or something like that. I don't find that to be the case. Some of the most interesting people I know are ones who have extremely busy lives and who are quite focused on personal development, among other things.

FYI, having the first and only comment on your account be an ad hominem looks like trolling. This post does not. Keep it up.

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