Women’s expectations of the opposite sex are at least as unrealistic as men’s
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That being said, it would be exceedingly unsurprising to find that women are equally influenced by social norms/social constructs of attractiveness as men.
And as for the opening 'men wondering what women want', people want different things. Finding what's generally attractive to a gender does not conversely mean that you know what individual members of that gender want. And even if either gender were homogenous anyway, what you want changes significantly as you age - what a 20-, 40-, and 60-year old want are frequently very different things, even in the same person.