Who took a chance on you?
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No one.
Perfect SAT scores. Great grades. Most creative in class. Most encouraged in class. Rejected by every college but one.
After graduating college, rejected by every prospective employer except Denny's.
Taught myself to program and gave it away until someone hired me.
Ten time employee who quit every company because someone got promoted over me even though I did 3X the work.
Beat the pavement but couldn't find customers until I wrote the software first, then they purchased.
When friends & family saw how much money I made, they all wanted in on it until they saw the sacrifice I expected from them, then every one backed out.
Rejected by Alphalab because "no one would buy" what I had already sold many times. Rejected by Ycombinator because they didn't think anyone would buy what I had already sold many times. Rejected by Incubate Miami because they wanted to see a business with a product and customers first. (Then why would I need you guys? I thought the whole point of these programs was to find otherwise unavailable opportunities by giving prospective founders a break from their other responsibilities to be able to focus on just building.)
Rejected by prospective cofounders who didn't want to make the same sacrifices I have made.
After being underestimated by the cool kids, teachers, girls, family members, employers, and strangers for being an ugly skinny nerd my whole life, I thought it would be different in the tech world, but it's not. It's still a beauty contest based primarily of superficial subjective perceptions. People are still often too lazy or unable to dig below the surface to find the reality.
Please don't misunderstand. I'm not bitter. I'm glad...
I wouldn't be half the builder I am now if someone would have given me a break along the way.
So I just keep on building and loving it.
(This is a serious question, not a snipe).
Merit doesn't always count. Look at it this way, a manager is likely to promote a guy who for example... takes him out for lunch, looks after his interests at work and else where. Managers trust 'yes men'. So if you work hard but don't quite really act like their closest associates in the gang, you are done. Nerds with high self worth, who can actually be something by themselves by their work and sweat alone can't do all this. They always lose out like edw519 even if they have done 3x the work.
Lose out might be the wrong word. Because though you lose out on the shorter run. On the longer run, the 'yes men' lose capability to do something on their own (Read:Retire on their middle management job). The hard working nerd, if he really sticks to his guns and doesn't give up will make it big someday.
Also, is this book something you'd recommend to someone who's just casually interested in the subject?
Edit: Though it's been a while since I read it last, I remember finding it very informative and insightful. I don't think you need to be a psychologist or neuroscience expert to read it and benefit.
[1]: http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Tha...
If you write a bunch of code but don't test it before shipping, it doesn't matter how hard you worked on it -- if it's got a ton of bugs, you can't really expect a pat on the back.
Similarly, if you accomplish stuff for the company and nobody knows, what credit can you expect for it?
If I left 10 companies because someone got promoted despite the fact that I did 3x the work, several questions would pop into my head:
1) Did the company value what I was working 3x as hard on?
2) Did the company know that I was working 3x as hard? Was I able to demonstrate a tangible result of this extra effort?
3) What could I do differently so that this doesn't happen again? What can I learn from the person who did get promoted? Why has this happened 10x?
Someone else mentioned a study of EQ vs. IQ -> I agree - after a certain point, IQ isn't the determining factor, how you enhance the abilities of the team (and make other team members feel) is also very important.
Unless it becomes obvious to those above that the 3x worker will leave without some recognition/challenge, nothing happens. When they get it, the pattern I've seen is Year 1: "Okay, how many awards can we give you and keep you in your current role?" Year 2: "Ugh, okay, what raises can we give you to keep you in your current role?" Year 3: "Alright, alright; how much headcount do we now need to justify to replace you after we promote you? Three? Seriously? Holy cow, get the checkbook..."
If a 3x-the-work person stews silently and just leaves in a huff without communicating what it is that they want from their chain of command, they miss on all that fun (and several rounds of salary bump).
> Rejected by every college but one.
Which colleges did you apply to? Plenty of people with great grades and perfect SAT scores still end up rejected from top-tier colleges.
> Taught myself to program and gave it away until someone hired me.
So someone decided to hire a young person with only self-taught programming experience and (I'm assuming) no CS degree. Certainly sounds like someone gave you a break here.
And trust me, not every perfect SAT score is a guarantee of getting into Harvard, Princeton, Yale, MIT, Stanford, etc.
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When friends & family saw how much money I made, they all wanted in on it until they saw the sacrifice I expected from them, then every one backed out.
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Rejected by prospective cofounders who didn't want to make the same sacrifices I have made.
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I thought it would be different in the tech world, but it's not. It's still a beauty contest based primarily of superficial subjective perceptions. People are still often too lazy or unable to dig below the surface to find the reality.
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Please don't misunderstand. I'm not bitter.
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Have you stopped to consider why you're seeing these results? Do you feel that your perceptions are an accurate picture of the situation?
> Cody,
> I really admire what you're doing. I am the founder and former CEO of MP3.com. I'm not anti-DRM, but I am pro-consumer. I recently launched MP3tunes.com, a MP3 only store which also includes a locker so you can sync to many devices. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. You might also be interested in MP3beamer. See: http://www.mp3beamer.com
> Keep up the good work.
> -- MR
I told him how much it meant to me to receive the email, and that the thing I really needed to continue the work was an IDA Pro license; I had one a few days later! Shortly thereafter, he contracted me to build hooks into iTunes to display the MP3tunes store, and other functionality like that. Flew me out to San Diego (my first time on a plane, from a tiny little farming town in the middle of nowhere in PA), took me to the deviantArt summit, etc. I can't overstate how important all this was to me.
He took a chance on me, and I ended up working my ass off for him for about two years before starting my own company and moving on. I was 17 -- I could've been a one-hit wonder, or I could've not fit with the team, or any number of other things. While MR and I are not on good terms these days, I owe my success in large part to him; for that I'll be forever grateful.
I hope I can pay the favor forward some day.
But there I was in Fairfax at my first real interview just a handful of days before graduation, nervous as hell. The business was document management and tax preparation web applications. My portfolio consisted of a single website I created to accompany my resume a week before this interview, with some made-up content about Herndon, deployed to a free webhost. I talked a good game about <table>-less CSS-driven layouts, accessibility, all the stuff his departing designer had been pushing for (thanks again, ALA).
The guy thought I was sharp and took a chance on me. He offered a small salary that seemed like a pot of gold to 18-year old me, and it was enough to be able to get my own place, not even with roommates. I was ecstatic, and I'll never forget the excitement of that summer.
In the rare event that you read Hacker News, thanks Arnold :^) ... Who knows where I'd be today if you hadn't taken that risk.
(This is true not only due to people taking chances on others, but because people are born into situations that govern their capacity for success. Malcolm Gladwell demonstrates this wonderfully in Outliers, a book that has had a large impact on me and which I recommend to everyone I can. But I digress.)
It's actually somewhat disconcerting to consider.
I'm worried I'll fail and never know if I failed because I was unlucky, or because I just wasn't good enough. That's what makes me uncomfortable.
I get over it pretty quickly, but it's still unsettling, if only for a moment.
At first glance, his post reads like he had one lucky break after another after another, but I'm sure the road felt very shaky and uncertain along the way, and he doesn't mention any of his mistakes/failures and I'm sure he made several (it just wasn't the point of the post).
Max Levchin endured 3 failures early on, and then he had this chance encounter with Peter Thiel before founding PayPal: http://ecorner.stanford.edu/authorMaterialInfo.html?mid=1022
To me that means 2 things: seeking out and creating opportunities. Build stuff, meet people, take risks and chances. This increases the chances of opportunities (luck) happening: Meeting that perfect co-founder, stumbling onto a brilliant idea, finding the right investors, etc.
Then secondly, you have to practice to be open-minded enough to realise that when an opportunity actually arrives, you know it is one! You might seek and create opportunities as much you want, as most of it ends up being luck, but if you don't realise that luck, you've missed the boat.
By then I had the chance to pay it forward by mentoring employees with design and liberal arts background to become decent web devs. Coding for the web isn't really that hard to learn if you're motivated, which is why it pains me to see the bullshit "our hiring process" posts.
As a child in Israel, I'd hear about the American ideals of giving someone a chance and taking a risk. Many years later, when I lived in NYC, I was disappointed to find employers so risk averse they can barely make a decision on hiring a junior PHP coder without an Ivy League degree, 4 references and a 6 hour interview process. I had enough experience for degrees not to matter, but I feel for kids in the US who are now where I was when I started out.
That experience has equipped me with what I've needed to land another internship, start freelance consulting work, win a major hackathon, and get accepted into a brilliant program. All because they took a chance on me.
I'm watching a brilliant, college age friend struggle through that initial "getting started" process in web development, and all I can think is: Thanks Trace, thanks Obie!
Edit: Also, thanks HN, for being the forum by which I found them! Though I'm still not sure that was the correct use of an AskHN thread (and I'm afraid to recommend the tactic to friends) it definitely helped me!
It was an amazing, life changing experience. I got through some of my hardest engineering exams knowing I'd one day get to do something as cool as them. I now build research instruments for physical oceanography. I'm not at all surprised I stayed in a field of exploratory science.
[1] http://www.nasa.gov/mission_pages/stereo/news/stereo3D_press...
Be grateful to friends and lovers, not to governments and corporations.
Keep in mind, though, that the situation when some (or all) current employees would not be hired under current job requirements for outside hires is more common than people think!
Just as important to getting the opportunities is taking advantage of them. If Bijan had never agreed to take part in Spark, this may never have happened. So kudos to him for taking the bull by its horns.
1. In 1998, I was hired by the editor of the local newspaper to help maintain their new website. I was 14 at the time and my resume consisted of a couple of websites dedicated to Age of Empires.
2. In beginnig 2000, at the age of 15, I was hired on by a small dialup ISP for a tech support role. I was the first employee the founding group had hired. At first it was just an after-school job, but it turned into a full-time job a few years later. I can't even begin to describe how much I learned there over the years.
For a while I applied to jobs left and right. I have very little professional experience(marketing). I hoped for similar story; someone willing to give me a shot. It never happened. Instead, I changed my focus to growing my girlfriend's dog treat business(startup). In the end, I gave myself a shot.
I had spent a lot of this time approaching local design agencies and web dev studios (of which there are a lot in my area) for internships and the like, rarely ever met with a response, let alone a "thank you, but no," so I kept plodding away.
Eventually, someone responded to my enquiry, a small design agency with a few fairly big clients, they offered me an unpaid internship working 3 or so days a week to build up some experience. As much as I came to learn they were exploiting me (I was there well over a year, eventually working for minimum wage), I still do owe them a hell of a lot. Getting back into the swing of things, doing something that I loved gave me my confidence back, I learned to trust my skills and that I am good at what I do.
From that point on, literally every changed in my life. I came off the anti-depressants, found a new girlfriend, got a new house and now have a new job making decent money for a company I really enjoy. As much as I may bitch and moan about how that agency took the piss so much with me, the chance that they took on me turned my life around.
In 2008 I was working at Wal-Mart throwing boxes off of trucks and trucking product out to the shelves. Incidentally this was the best job I had ever had excluding my current career, and I still look back fondly on it.
I had tried to go to the local technical college for their programmer analyst degree but quickly dropped out after I found that I knew most of the material and could not even test out of classes that were primarily focused on teaching you how to use a mouse.
In 2009 my unit was deployed to Iraq and I resigned that I would try to go to a four-year college for CS when I returned and I had my VA benefits to throw around.
Everything changed when I met my mentor (a figurehead in the Ruby community) online via a comment that I had left on his blog. I had been learning Ruby/Rails in my downtime during the deployment to that point and we continued to converse throughout the rest of the deployment.
When I got back in 2010, instead of applying to college, I already a job offer waiting for me because my mentor decided to take a chance on me and hire me at the RoR consulting company he was CTO of at the time.
Three years later, I've spoken at a conference, co-authored a book, and have been working in the career I always dreamed of because someone decided to take a chance on me.
I owe the success of the last three years in large part to Chad Fowler and the rest of the awesome folks I worked with at InfoEther in 2010, and I'll always be eternally grateful for the chance I was given that led me to where I am today.
At the school I went to, you had to apply to your program at the end of your Sophomore year, and in order to continue, they had to accept you. The advisers basically told us up front that you had to have this GPA overall and this GPA in classes in that program and it helps if you get good grades in classes X, Y and Z since they are the weed outs. I didn't meet either GPA requirement, and I only had good grades in classes X and Z, with an average grade in class Y. I was also pretty shy and antisocial in the academic setting, so I didn't have any professor friends to go to bat for me. I got the acceptance letter anyway, and my plans for a back up degree in finance didn't have to come into play. I've always been thankful that they took a chance on the under performing dude they didn't know and let me develop my passion.
Turns out I was so hard working, so dedicated, that years later when I was stuck in a callcenter because I didn't have any grades from school, that same boss recommended me to a big consulting firm, who took a chance on me. And it payed off, for both of us. Now I have a career in IT and I never graduated what Americans would equal to High school. :)
[1] http://jmathai.trovebox.com/p/5bk/tags-mathew,mary
[2] http://www.shuttleworthfoundation.org/fellows/jaisen-mathai/
Granted, he was in a different type of design discipline. Learning fundamentals and how to think was more valuable to me at that time than just learning software.
I've went back to school. I hope something pans out soon.