I don't think YC really fits here, since you know ahead of time what their offer will be.
Thankfully, YC seems to be friendly if there are circumstances like this (Paul gives an example below).
This works because YC has a flexible # of slots. TechStars has a rough way to go here because, with 10 slots, they can't let a deal linger for a month without a firm answer. I don't think it's malicious on their part.