"Regarding YC, I believe they offer a ton of value beyond the money."
I'm sure they do, but finding a co-founder who is a programmer just to get into their program seems rather ass-backwards if you ask me. I would much rather own 100% of my company, hire a programmer to do that work, and use my time to make my own contacts.
If you think you have to move to the Valley to make these contacts there's nothing wrong with moving. People always brag about it being a common everyday occurrence to meet and chat with VC's there anyways. I don't know how true this is, but that's only because I've never been there to experience the environment firsthand.
And I'm not belittling the value of YC in any way, I'm just reminding you that there are other ways of doing things than the ways you've conceived. Whether or not they work for you is up to you to decide.
I have a very independent outlook on life and business, so even if this might work well for me it doesn't mean it would work for you or others. I would actually love to partner with the right people in a new venture, but I won't take the time to seek them out because of two reasons:
1- I know I can be successful on my own without them, and if I take time out I will have to sacrifice the progress I'm already making in order to find them, and ...
2- Given the unreliable nature of the task of finding a reliable 'partner' I feel it makes more sense for me to just stick to what I've already started, and just keep working on it myself.
If the right partner comes along for me that's great, but I won't lose any sleep over it if I have to do everything myself. I get a lot of support from my wife anyways, and it's probably better support than I might get from another kind of 'partner'. This may be another reason why I do not agree with some online claims that having a co-founder is so important to the success of a new business.
On the other hand, I was launching new ventures years before I met my wife, and going back to "doing it all myself" simply doesn't phase me in the least. I am not one of those folks who need someone else around to keep my energy and focus, that's all. For better or worse that's just the way I am.