I like the overall scheme. If information overload for women is the hard part, that's the thing to focus on.

That said, how will you attract men to a site where they are likely to be filtered into oblivion? The mainstream dating sites may, in reality, be useless to many men, but by giving subscribers the ability to actively do something, they may feel like they're making contact.

Conversely, how will you handle women who "shoot too high" ? (i.e. If female subscribers filter too hard, they may not get the response rates they desire.)