I personally prefer not to use ORMs for this specific reason: they are typically way too complicated to be able to plow through the code in any reasonable way. It's also generally not that hard to design your application in such a way that using a minimalist "ORM-ish" layer of your own making isn't exactly a waste of time. I've also found that they rarely follow these best practices (it's maddening).
I have, however, had to make use of Hibernate, SQL Alchemy and Django's ORM on projects where I didn't make the calls. I'm pretty sure Hibernate uses parametric, prepared statements. I believe SQLAlchemy and Django ORM do not, but use their own escaping mechanism internally. In addition, I don't know about Hibernate and SQLA, but I'm pretty sure that Django's ORM API does make it possible to cause the framework to generate SQL using user-provided data for column/table names in a manner similar to ActiveRecord.
By way of contradicting myself, I do believe that ORMs are great for writing internal use-utilities that are one-offs or quick-and-dirty tools. In general, those cases preclude the use of autonomously provided user data for query building. For world-facing code, ORMs are risky unless you've got someone on the team who knows it and has the ability to ensure it doesn't suffer from these types of design flaws.