As a non-native English speaker I'm always so self conscious when using commas, it feels like I'm always using either too many or too few
Formally, most comma use is an issue of style, not grammar, and style guides differ on when they should and shouldn't be used. The main rule that's actually a matter of grammar is this: commas cannot be used to join two "clauses" (phrases which could be independent sentences) without a conjunction.
There's a caveat where some style guides permit using a comma without a conjunction in specific contexts, but most don't.
The lack or excess of commas doesn't upset any reasonable person in the slightest.