I can relate. I'm in the top percentile on stack overflow (now killed by AI). My only goal was to be "good" in the way you described.
And haven’t been back there for years. Reinstate Monica. And shame on the licensing grab.
Sure some advancements suck, but that's not on you. Answering the questions publicly for all to see enables everyone, and it's up to them to use it for better or worse.
Unlike HN and Reddit “discussions” which bring out the snark and ackchually in me far too often, and rarely seem a good way to “discuss” anything, focused questions and answers can potentially add a small value to the world.