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>The best summary I have seen: Average women are no longer interested in average men. More details: Since women became economic equals to men, they are no longer interested in their economic equals.

I'm honestly baffled at these affirmations. I have lived in small and big cities, and this were never true anywhere I looked. Most of my friends are dating and most of them are not rich or richer than their partners. I go out and see a lot of couples. Are all these men making much more money than their partners? I have used dating apps as an average man and it sucks. But I got better at taking care of my looks and got some matches regularly. Not a lot, but enough to meet some women. I would have a harder time if dating apps didn't exist.

I'm not trying to minimize these experiences, though. I just never saw that happening as much as they say.

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    > I'm honestly baffled at these affirmations. I have lived in small and big cities, and this were never true anywhere I looked. Most of my friends are dating and most of them are not rich or richer than their partners. I go out and see a lot of couples. Are all these men making much more money than their partners?

Likely, the "income potential" of the man is much higher than the women, which is why is he attractive to the woman. When women are picking a man for marriage, probably the number one quality in a mate is existing or potential income/wealth.

    > I have used dating apps as an average man and it sucks. But I got better at taking care of my looks and got some matches regularly. Not a lot, but enough to meet some women. I would have a harder time if dating apps didn't exist.

You are more attractive than you realise. I say that with no hate. You are probably above an average looks guy. You got a good haircut, cleaned-up your skin, got decent clothes, then took good photos. Millions of truly average men have tried this with little to no effect.

>When women are picking a man for marriage, probably the number one quality in a mate is existing or potential income/wealth.

Wasn't that always true, though? No parents were hoping for their daughter to marry a broke guy in the 80s. And most women wanted a rich guy to marry.

Besides, the percentage of American women married is steady since the 2010s [1]. If dating apps are having that much of an effect, we would see a decline, right?

EDIT: I researched about USA because I thought we are American. If that is not the case, search for the numbers of your country

>You are more attractive than you realise. I say that with no hate. You are probably above an average looks guy. You got a good haircut, cleaned-up your skin, got decent clothes, then took good photos. Millions of truly average men have tried this with little to no effect.

I really wish I could send you some pictures of me. If you saw them, I REALLY doubt that you would say that I'm above average in looks. And I'm not being modest here, I'm truly aware of my standing, looks-wise. I know that is a dumb metric, but my average score in Photofeeler was 5~6. That said, I recognize that my current sense of style is better than most men in my country.

[1] https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/FP...

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