Are you under the mistaken impression that hitting a 1, 2, or 3 for bad/fine/good is itself sufficient permission to allow Anthropic to train off your chat?

They explicitly ask, after the rating, whether they can look at your chat. You can just say "no" to that, if you believe that they are following the rules they say they are.

Your original statement of "using feedback gives them permission to train" is just plain false.