This is a psychopaths measure of success.
I don’t know what metrics you would consider non-psychopathic.
Getting married, having children, being materially successful, destroying your enemies. These are good things.
This is psychopathic.
Just look at history, another way to judge a leader is to look at how much effort they put into protecting themselves from their loving countrymen.
How many body guards did Churchill have ? How many body soldiers were allocated to guarding Hitler ? Why did the Kings of Europe all build castles ?