Ah, so for you it's more like "you failed at some achievable goals" versus "there's nothing you could have done" ?
No, not in the least. Bizarre take.
What? Take? I'm just trying to understand..? If you don't want me to guess, would you at least be willing to elaborate? Especially if it's a viewpoint I hadn't considered, I'd be curious to know.
If you're removed for a photo for race/sex reasons, I view it as a 'political' change, which is less personally insulting than modifying your face to look better (implying you are uglier than would be preferred).