I anticipate your reply that the light is just sending information about what happened. But a moving observer could perceive _our_ now as occurring before the events that we now observe in light from the hypothetical 20 million light year distant object.
There is no "now" and no relative, definite "past" for distant objects, even if they are in the same reference frame. It is not intuitive, I understand that. I didn't make the rules.
I do appreciate you insisting that I improve my terminology. And I do appreciate being made to defend myself, I had to go look some of this stuff up. It is fascinating - especially the pre-Einstein work that left everybody puzzled.
LATE EDIT:
> According to the special theory of relativity introduced by Albert Einstein, it is impossible to say in an absolute sense that two distinct events occur at the same time if those events are separated in space. If one reference frame assigns precisely the same time to two events that are at different points in space, a reference frame that is moving relative to the first will generally assign different times to the two events.
That's from here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relativity_of_simultaneityI'll not say that Wikipedia is a particularly good source, I'm happy to be corrected if you have something that contradicts that.