As for _our_ reference frame, I've explained in other comments but a debate has developed between those few who do understand because they've studied physics, and those who think that their intuition is more correct than Einstein. I decline to elaborate further, HN comments are not long enough to cover it all. In short: you are in fact missing something but that is fine, everybody is. Einstein himself stated that in his day maybe three people on the planet understood, and he was uncertain if he was among those three.
But go ahead, you win the internet argument. When I thought this was a discussion, and I could potentially learn something or help somebody understand, I was happy to participate. But I have no interest in an argument consisting of insults and accusations and no exchange of information. You win, congratulations.