Alien mind is in my view the best mental model - LLMs are not merely stochastic parrots, are not like humans, are not like animals.
They're maybe nearest to Cthulhu, but that's fictional. In terms of existing mental models "alien minds" feels the best can do.
I agree that "teach how to love" is off and perhaps excessively anthropomorphic. But we don't have good words or concepts for what we really need to do - hence why we should pause.