And it's not just gravity, it's also electromagnetism: charge arrangements (i.e. ions) look like point charges at a distance, meaning you can neglect the electron orbital structure. Light sources act like point sources at a distance too.
A lot of the equations you learn in introductory physics rely on the higher moments vanishing.
- The planetary motion equations (Kepler's laws) assume gravity as a point source (the three body problem can be approximated by replacing two of the bodies with 1)
- E = mgh -> assumes a homogeneous gravitational field, which is a special case of gravitational monopole near an equipotential surfaced. And of course parabolic motion and pendula only work because this holds.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birkhoff%27s_theorem_(relativi...