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>failing at online dating

I think people fall into the trap of thinking things are too good to be true (so they must not be true). This results in abandoned relationships that would have been better than 99% of those from pre-online-dating times.

This has been true for me, anyway. Every time I've entered the online dating scene, I've invariably realized 3 months later that one or two of the women I turned down for second dates were great matches.

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I don't understand what you mean by "too good to be true" here. You mistakenly think the women you have good first dates with are fraudulent in some way?

It's that I'm not naturally inclined to accept things/matches that appear ideal on the surface. Though in this case they aren't scams at all.

I don't know how to articulate it, that's just my best shot. I'm baffled by my poor decision-making and assume the author is guilty of the same faulty reasoning.

I'll give anyone a second date if they accept. Maybe not a third, but everyone gets a second chance. It doesn't cost much since I don't do extravagant dates to begin with, so that weeds out those women quickly.

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