C++ was designed as an universal way of writing low level system code. It has some abstractions above C, but still allowing for all kinds of optimizations. (Think using a class vs a template, similar abstraction different impact).
To use C++ to code user programs is the actual mistake.
Think about assembly. Should assembly also be safe in all calls? That will make everything slower, and consume way more energy. Will you blame assembly if people used it to create a phone app and it had memory leaks? Or will you blame the developer for using assembly in the first place?
C++ is a tool designed for a range of purposes. There is a push to make it an universal language that makes everything well. But engineering is about making compromises.
For your use, C++ may be the wrong language. I do not disagree with you. But maybe you should be using another language instead. Or we should create a new language that fills the sweet spot that C++ covers, and then evolve C++ to be the safe language that you want. One way or another, it is a compromise.