The Price of Happiness (2024)
happiness-science.org
happiness-science.org
* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grant_Study
and their findings lean towards good relationships with family and friends are highly correlation with happiness, health, and many aspects of financial success. The released a book summarizing many results a few years ago:
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/61273746-the-good-life
* https://archive.is/https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive...
The daily reminder about the pains of autism and depression :/
This is prime time. This is what I'm currently on earth to solve. I'm going to enjoy the process of trying to defeat it. Amor fati.
Of course, you don't have to think that way. But you're going to have one problem or another, either way, and that mindset shift just makes everything feel less hopeless and more in control, even if the problem persists for now.
In fact, for this particular idea, I am so over the edge that I sometimes feel pity for those conventionally lucky people who seemingly have it all and don't have a struggle on their on. I mean, what is the point of their life? But I find consolation in the possibility that they might have hidden struggles...
Besides, there is a way to transcend that unhappiness. I've seen people meditate their way out of it, but it takes years of study and discipline. The only reason why every psychiatrist doesn't tell you to start doing it is you can't just tell someone to work hard at something, they have to want to do it themselves.
Things move faster once you discover/can see your next problem(s) clearly. Is another way to put it.
An effective form of 'treatment' for depression/anxiety is to recognize that negative feels often don't come first, but rather we are doing actions that cause them, so you should do the positive things and this will reduce one's negative emotions:
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54930681-feeling-great
And maybe more importantly, not everyone benefits from CBT! Sometimes people are unhappy because there's deep emotional work they need to do first.
I say this specifically because giving to others is undervalued for its internal benefits, and animals tend to be more accessible to direct love towards than humans with their complexities. But overall just giving is a way of transferring some of yourself into a more together context, and volunteering tends to be socially easier than like hanging at a bar or something...idk, just another autistic person who has/does struggle with depression in many contexts.
Volunteer at a cat shelter for e.g was only a tiny part of my burn out recovery process but it was still a really important catalyst and component. Maybe you can have some similar experiences too! Or maybe your own experiences are very different and it's not valuable for you, I'm sorry.
If you want I can ramble more about structural reasons for why this is a very good idea for autism+depression, but the point is really 'one extremely small and accessible suggestion' and so I don't want to overcomplicate it more.
Anyway if animals can't work for you, any other volunteering and/or metta/ loving-kindness meditation would be my second recommendations.
But it's really important for the volunteering bits that you are not maximizing efficiency. It is certainly 10X more impact if I was to work$ and donate that to the cat shelter. But in terms of the thematic healing goal, it is more important I spend time scooping poop for the cat gods at the shelter almost precisely because it's not a utility-value driven experience. Giving unto others, etc.
Regularly recommended on HN by folks:
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46674.Feeling_Good
there's also a follow-up:
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/54930681-feeling-great
So they took the cream of the crop in the US and tracked it for 80 years. Most of these people will never starve or have to choose a tier 3 education for their children. It's useful as a study, but mostly to demonstrate what matters for the affluent / well-off for their happiness.
1. Their (alleged) affluence was no guarantee of success or happiness.
2. There was a second study (with the two later merging) that followed boys from the rougher part(s) of town: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glueck_Study
The referenced book looks at both cohorts.
And disputes over money are the most common way to break up a family. Probably friends too.
If money doesn't make you happy, then you probably aren't spending it right
by Elizabeth Dunn, Daniel Gilbert, & Timothy D. Wilson
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S10577...
Includes explicit recommendations (even in the short abstract)!
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15803098-happy-money
I'd also recommend Morgan Housel's various writings:
* https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/231148075-the-art-of-spe...
He had an interesting observation: the popular saying "don't spend money on things, but on experiences" only goes so far. Spending on things can bring about experiences: the big house/cabin/cottage per se may not bring you happiness, but if it's a place that you can gather family and friends, that can bring happiness/meaning. His first car didn't bring him happiness because it was a car (and not even fancy), but because of all the road trips he did with his friends in it.
My favorite academic summary is The Good Life: Unifying the Philosophy and Psychology of Well-Being by Michael A. Bishop. As a hyper-short summary: psychologists studying well being have used different definitions and approaches, yet what unifies them is positive feedback loops - behaviors and activities that beget more positive affect in the future. Think spending time with good friends, etc.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22897962-the-good-life
A classic read is Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert. It shows how humans are systematically bad at predicting to what extent future events will make them happier or sad. His TED talk is a nice 20 minute summary of the book.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/56627.Stumbling_on_Happi...
I would say that delaying the pleasure in this case distances the pleasure anticipation from the decision, just like deciding to start going to the gym next week is much easier decision to do then deciding to start right now. Appreciation of the health benefits of next week's banana combined with the lesser, mediocre pleasure that will be felt eating it, might be better for the individual health then having that Savoy truffle right now, but no, the banana will never bring the same pleasure or happiness. Never.
(link to the full version easily found in google: https://dunn.psych.ubc.ca/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/1-s2-0-...)
"When you don't have any money, the problem is food. When you have money, it's sex. When you have both, it's health. If everything is simply jake, then you're frightened of death."
I imagine people who are making more money are probably a better fit for their career, feel more needed, and so forth and so on. I do imagine there's some relationship with income and accumulating more money per se, but I wonder how strong that relationship is once you remove the effects of career satisfaction independent of monetary gain, if such a thing is even possible.
I guess it's hard for me to interpret these effects because there's so much going on in the background in terms of meeting life goals, feeling welcome where you're at and feeling like you're able to contribute what you're best at, and so forth and so on.
The other thing is the ordinate axis is hard for me to make sense of. Like, in Figure 1, life satisfaction goes from say, 2.7 to 3.2 on a scale of 1 to 4? That seems like a relatively narrow range to me, even if it is statistically significant, and my guess is those dots are hiding a lot of variability.
So maybe that's what people mean by diminishing returns? Not that there's no actual continuing increase, but that the increase is incredibly small on some absolute scale of happiness? It's hard to know what to make of the happiness numbers — if, say, consequential changes in some measure of happiness occur far below anything on that ordinate axis, none of these increases with income are of any practical significance.
1. money != income.
2. Zip codes.
3. Age.
4. Social class.
a) 65 year old professor living in Woodside, CA, with a net worth of $250,000K
b) 35 year old HVAC business owner living in Fresno, CA, with a net worth of $2,000,000
First is poor, second is rich, but the study conflates both into the same bucket if they both make, say, $400K/yr
Annual income is easy to measure, net worth isn't. People like to measure things that are easier to measure. :P This is part of how 'millionaire' has gone from 'someone who has a million dollars' (for some value of has) to 'someone who has a million dollars of income per year'
I think for a study like this, a money-happiness correlation would need a more sophisticated definition of money, to account for peer pressure and spending.
For a given zip code - take p75 of pre-tax income, multiply by 50% - this would be a proxy of how much someone needs to spend per year to be comfortable with local cost of living and their peers. 50% takes taxes and savings out, call it spend/burn. Then someone's wealth could be a ratio of net-worth/burn. The higher the wealthier - people 25 and over essentially not needing to work, and people with < 3 are essentially in indentured servitude, even with high income. Control for age.
How long will we live? What will our health be like? Would we like to travel? Leave the kids an inheritance? Give it away? All of these can influence the number.
The secret to amassing wealth is to always live beneath your means; but don't forget to enjoy yourself as you make the journey towards retirement.
Ever been to a third world country and seen happy people who make just a couple hundred bucks a month, yet are very healthy and happy? I have. It's very life changing.
Who are the historical figures that you revere the most? Did their positive influences upon your life originate from making and having money?
The biggest delusion of Americans is that they worked hard for everything they have.
It is characteristic of Americans to think poor people are undeserving.
I'm even more unhappy now because my life expectations are higher and I can't get to that level again until I'm 65...
Hearing people tell me this nonsense about money and happiness makes me even more miserable because my conclusion is "They don't appreciate money, yet they are given money... I very much appreciate money, yet I'm not given money..."
From my perspective, it seems almost like the system is only giving money to people who are incapable of appreciating it... Meanwhile I know from past evidence how I felt when I had money + time and that feeling was happiness. I knew it then, I know it now.
Another is that there is no satisfaction to be had in status comparisons. There will be always somebody who has more than you.
I know someone extremely wealthy and he continuously says that he's bored, is depressed yet wants to make more.
Meanwhile I work daily with people on a normal/content wage and I feel like they're generally happier people?
I know people really struggling financially and they're constantly depressed.
Instead, find joy in cheap hobbies and ignore the status markers. Just do things for yourself, not for others.
And income (or wealth increase) can go up exponentially with wealth, so hitting the point where wealth just grows = linear increases in happiness relative to time?
That said all the findings that these studies seem to gravitate towards like close relationships also align with my experiences as being powerful effectors.
It is still interesting to see how the actual numbers shake out though, especially the section on how the income quintile groups actually scale linearly instead of log linearly with reported happiness.
I did a deep dive on finding how well tax brackets correlate with a log-based tax rate, but couldn't find much. I'll just summarize the results of my AI-assisted research:
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https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/ta...
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskEconomics/comments/1iri8nf/tax_b...
By plotting the 2026 single filer tax bracket thresholds against their marginal rates, we can fit them to the classic logarithmic function:
log-linear equation for slope of line (y = m * x + b):
tax rate = m * ln(income) + b
The ideal fit yields the parameters m = 0.0672 and b = -0.5121. The table below outlines how closely the mathematical log formula predicts actual statutory tax rates: income tax rate ln() tax rate deviation
$12,400 12% 12.10% +0.10%
$50,400 22% 21.52% -0.48%
$105,700 24% 26.50% +2.50%
$201,775 32% 30.84% -1.16%
$256,225 35% 32.44% -2.56%
$640,600 37% 38.60% +1.60%
US federal tax brackets match a base-e natural logarithm (ln) model surprisingly well, boasting a statistical correlation R^2 of approximately 0.962.---
The general public might have a hard time understanding logarithms, so I investigated using base 2, base 10 and base e (ln) to explain them (the base doesn't affect the computed tax rate). Here are the two simplest rules of thumb for a log-based tax system:
a) base 2 log: every time your income doubles, you pay 4.7% higher taxes on the total
b) base 10 log: every time you add a 0 to the end of your income, you pay 15.5% higher taxes on the total
income tax rate taxes paid approximation
a) base 2 log:
$8,192 9.37% $768 ~10%
$16,384 14.03% $2,299 ~15%
$32,768 18.69% $6,124 ~20%
$65,536 23.35% $15,303 ~25%
$131,072 28.01% $36,713 ~30%
$262,144 32.67% $85,642 ~35%
$524,288 37.33% $195,717 ~37% (current top marginal tax rate capped above this point)
$1,048,576 41.99% $440,297 ~40% vs 37%
$2,097,152 46.65% $978,321 ~45% vs 37%
$4,194,304 51.31% $2,152,097 ~50% vs 37%
$8,388,608 55.97% $4,695,104 ~55% vs 37%
$16,777,216 60.63% $10,172,026 ~60% vs 37%
$33,554,432 65.29% $21,907,689 ~65% vs 37%
$67,108,864 69.95% $46,942,650 ~70% vs 37%
$134,217,728 74.61% $100,139,847 ~75% vs 37%
$268,435,456 79.27% $212,788,786 ~80% vs 37%
$536,870,912 83.93% $450,595,756 ~85% vs 37%
$1,073,741,824 88.59% $951,227,882 ~90% vs 37%
b) base 10 log:
$10,000 10.66% $1,066 ~10%
$100,000 26.12% $26,120 ~25%
$1,000,000 41.59% $415,900 ~40% retains current millionaire tax rate near 37%
$10,000,000 57.06% $5,706,000 ~50% at mid-millions vs 37%
$100,000,000 72.52% $72,520,000 ~75% at $100 million vs 37%
$1,000,000,000 87.99% $879,900,000 ~90% at $1 billion vs 37%
From those tables, it's easy to see how a log-linear flat tax rate would work:
a) base 2 log:
4.7% flat tax: tax rate = 4.7% * (number of doublings) - 50%
b) base 10 log:
15.5% flat tax: tax rate = 15.5% * (number of zeros) - 50%
c) base e log (for completeness):
6.7% flat tax: tax rate = 6.7% * (number of zeros) - 50%
Politicians would set the log-linear tax rate slope (the 4.7%, 15.5% or 6.7% depending on log base) and the tax rate base (50% which might vary between perhaps 45-55%).After grokking this, we might ask why a non-logarithmic 10% flat tax wouldn't work? The answer is subtle, but it's because it wouldn't incorporate the increased buying power over expenses ratio of higher incomes, so the formula would become tax rate = 0 * (number of zeros) + 10%, making it a regressive tax that penalizes low incomes and lowers taxes on high incomes that don't need the help.
To demonstrate why a 10% flat tax would be regressive, lets calculate the log-linear tax rate that meets the current $2 trillion US tax income:
tax rate = m * ln(income) + b
calculation of m for ln(income) derived from current values:
m = (T - (b * AGI)) / (AGI * ln(u))
m = log-linear slope to solve for
T = total US tax revenue (currently about $2 trillion)
b = -50% (floor held constant as a starting point)
AGI = annual gross income of US (currently about $15 trillion)
u = center of mass income of all taxpayers with half of tax revenues above and below (currently about $250,000)
m = (2e12 - (-0.5 * 15e12)) / (15e12 * ln(250000)) = 0.05096 ~= 5%
calculation of m for base 2 log and base 10 log for completeness:
a) base 2 log:
m = (2e12 - (-0.5 * 15e12)) / (15e12 * log2(250000)) = 0.03532 ~= 3.5%
b) base 10 log:
m = (2e12 - (-0.5 * 15e12)) / (15e12 * log10(250000)) = 0.11733 ~= 12%
Lets see if the calculated m slope would lower taxes: final tax rates to meet $2 trillion in tax revenue using base 10 log-linear tax at m = 12%:
tax rate = 12% * log10(income) - 50%
income tax rate taxes paid approximation
b) base 10 log:
$10,000 -2.00% -$200 ~0% tax floor/credit for poverty line
$100,000 10.00% $10,000 ~10% tax for working class
$1,000,000 22.00% $220,000 ~20% for millionaires (37% top marginal tax rate currently)
$10,000,000 34.00% $3,400,000 ~35% for multimillionaires
$100,000,000 46.00% $46,000,000 ~50% for top millionaire incomes vs 37%
$1,000,000,000 58.00% $580,000,000 ~60% for billionaires vs 37%
notable thresholds:
$50,000 6.39% $3,194 ~6.5% tax for median income taxpayers
$250,000 14.78% $36,938 ~15% tax for center of mass income taxpayers
It's obvious from the last summary that incomes under $100,000 would pay less under a log-linear flat tax than a 10% flat tax. Millionaires and multimillionairs would pay less than their current 37% top marginal tax rate too. Only top multimillionaires and billionaires would pay higher taxes than they do now.After running the math, I feel that it's objectively self-evident that a log-linear tax reflects reality better than a 10% flat tax.