I’m a heavy Tailscale user, so I do trust them quite a bit, but I never used the Tailscale SSH feature.
I feel like OpenSSH’s security record is pretty unbeatable, not sure why I’d swap over for such a security-sensitive tool.
Even then, it's obvious you are running SSH, and they can fingerprint the OS, and external logging shows which machines are connecting, and hence have said SSH keys. If they have SSH open they become targets; if they come from CGNAT, carriers can leak location via CGNAT behaviour.
In contrast tailscale makes this much harder.