It's because we see things from different perspectives. Redwood, you seem to find your current reality quite satisfactory, and I imagine you have a career strong enough that you don't need to expose yourself to negative concepts. I've observed your previous comments, and you strike me as highly logical and composed in tone. In my experience, people like that tend to be socially successful men.
But I'm in a position that nobody wants as a programmer. Porting code from failed companies to run on different equipment, or building datasets for professors' papers. These things are necessary, but nobody wants to do them.
So even if it means putting myself out there in negative spaces, for me, the exposure itself is beneficial.
That's why this is always a difficult issue. It's a problem where the boundary keeps shifting depending on the situation. You, being a rational person, would understand that problems are always fluid and dynamic.
We tend to simplify problems to conserve cognitive resources, and that's what we call bias. The reason I assume you're a successful man is because of the ease and gentleness in your tone. That's a kind of bias. But in reality, you probably have your own struggles, and there are certainly points where your perspective differs from mine. In some situations, what's right in one context may not be in another. What was correct in the past may no longer be, and vice versa. Yet we always anchor ourselves to a fixed point when we 'think.' That's what makes it so difficult.
I've read your previous comments too, and I find our conversations quite enjoyable. Have a good day.