That sounds like an extremely obnoxious judgement.
> If you want a deep friendship, better bring something deep to the table.
At some point sure. Are you suggesting launching into deep conversation when you meet someone?
I am strongly suggesting not to start with shallow smalltalk, as it is common in the USA.
I would start with serious conversations when I meet someone to get a feeling. But if the "vibe" is right, you can indeed get deep rather soon.
Especially since it's usually Americans that have the reputation for treating strangers overly familiar in conversation.
I don't get your point:
- Avoiding shallow talking means not wasting the other person's time - this is politeness.
- You can also talk about deep topics with people who are outside of your friendzone.
Or just a cultural difference.