It's not really true that components in physical engineering domains have no memory. The behavior of many physical components can only be described with access to a recent history. Other components, specially controllers, are typically state machines (which obviously have state).

But it is true that there will always be parts of a software system that are highly coupled. I'm not even sure if that's even a problem, unless the coupling is also highly tangled (meaning the connections are coming from too many places).

But if you want to decrease coupling between parts of a system, OOP by itself is not particularly good at it. Even something like an Entity Component System is usually less coupled than most OOP codebases because while each System is heavily coupled to the components they do work on, the Systems are usually fully independent from one another and easily replaceable.