He took me to a quarry to fire Estes-style rocket cars, and all that.. he also managed to steal a Milicja (military police) siren from work, and put it on the back of my banana style bike. As an EE, he made it actually function.
Thanks to all the hackers who made us who we are.
My Dad was a commercial artist (he did portraits and still lifes at home) and put two kids through college. How he did that still amazes me. He commuted from the north shore of Boston through downtown to Dorchester. What an ordeal that must have been.
I joined the ranks of commuters when I moved to the Bay Area. I'll spare you those stories (for now, anyway)
After the commercial art job, Dad had a succession of jobs. He worked his butt off. I recall his job reviewing trust funds for the state. And then that office closed when the federal government took it over. He did get to see all his grandchildren.
My daughter was too young to understand what I did at my many jobs, but that's actually OK. Kids learn from their time with you, and hopefully, I gave her a good example of integrity and trust.
Seeing how that gift has flourished is the greatest gift I can get this Father's Day, being so far away, but she and her husband did treat me recently to a nice brunch, and of course, frozen yogurt, when I visited.
CIAO to all Dads today.
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And I can gladly say, these have been the most incredible days of my life. I want to be more ambitious and more active for my kid, in ways I hadn't thought before.
Happy Father's day to all.
Obviously not true. But...
Children don't make memories before 4 or 5 and start being teenagers around 15-16. So about 10 years. Sounds like a long time.
But what is today, the solstice, June 21. You only get ten June 21sts. That's it. You start with a handful and it decreases from there.
A 7 year old has 8 or so left.
A 12 year old has 3 of each day left.
Enjoy your kids, you only get 10 of each calendar day with them.
As they gain independence, you have less time with them but it is also considered higher quality time.
And yes, 10 years is short. 2016 feels like no time compared with today.
If you’re lucky, sometimes you get a few bonus days sprinkled in later on as well. My oldest just came back from college for summer. I got to spend an evening sorting/assembling the border of a massive puzzle, listening to their 90s music playlist, and sharing some fancy whiskies I like.
Happy Father's day, most of the world!
Taking something apart and trying to fix it was his way of figuring it out. I really appreciated that, and I find myself operating in similar ways.
He also had a fearless approach and the belief that he could fix it. I never saw him give up on a project—almost to a fault. There are areas for improvement in that approach, like asking for help.
Thanks, Dad, for inspiring me to fix things, take on challenges, be fearless, and believe I can succeed if I applied myself.
To all dads out there. Happy Father's Day.
I wrote this as I was motivated to fix my espresso machine last week https://x.com/dodeja/status/2068170135911981068
I love to carry my kid but sprinting around while carrying the extra load did a number on the feet. You can largely prevent it just by spending $50 on a proper insole.
My kid is my favorite thing in my life. So tiring, so rewarding. And after a year of wincing walking barefoot, I can finally run again. Don't lose running time with your kid, buy insoles.
Happy fathers day.
https://www.google.com/books/edition/Born_to_Run/4gS_0UwVI34...
I've had plantar fascitis a couple of times before (decade apart) and I've found that it can be resolved within 3 weeks.
The trick that worked for me is to regularly stretch the foot / arch after a few minutes into a walk when the foot is warmed up. If I do that consistently near the beginning of every walk, the pain quickly fades away and the problem resolves itself.
I think hiking over technical-ish terrain, like stumbling over tree roots and rocks that hit the arch would provide the same action of stretching of the bottom of the feet.
That said, proper insoles are the lowest-effort, cheapest means of mitigation.
I'd recommend something like the links below for going barefoot:
https://copperfitusa.com/collections/feet/products/arch-reli...
https://www.drscholls.com/products/plantar-fasciitis-achy-fe...
I think both companies make a compression band without a cushion, so it won't interference with your insole. (I use 3" elastic sewn in a loop, costs about $1 for a pair.)
Good anti-fatigue mats for anywhere you stand a lot are great as well.
It isn't easy, I have been struggling immensely (plug: I wrote about it at https://asukawang.com/blog/leap-of-faith ), but now she's seven months old and it has been a lot better.
I look forward to all the things I could do for her. A home-made jukebox with NFC tags on cassettes I once saw on HN really interests me, but I reckon a 3D printer would be necessary or at least very handy and there's not a lot of room left in my house. Also I prefer a non-bambu lab option (such as Prusa) but the price gap is kind of significant. Still have time to figure this out I guess.
For me there was no turning point. Just a realisation one day that the good was outweighing the bad, and it had been for a while.
> I look forward to all the things I could do for her.
Look forward to the things you can do for her today, and then do them! My baby used to love an evening walk in a front-facing carrier. We'd watch the sun set, the street lights come on, and the headlights of the cars driving by. She'd wiggle in the carrier with unbridled excitement.
Aww, man... nothing could be cooler.
Take a deep breath....
It resonates with me and if you’ve grown a business while raising a family I think it hits more authentic than anything else I’ve seen.
Happy Father’s Day fellas!
Subject:
A Note from the Founder: Happy Father’s Day
Body:
[image of middle aged founder sitting with 2 sons on a tailgate]
My boys and I wanted to wish all the Dads out there a Happy Father's Day.
This year is a special one for me. It's the first year both of my sons can officially wear a pair of BRUNT boots.
Now, my youngest is technically a full size too small for his to actually fit. But he doesn't care, he puts them on and wears them proudly. Seeing them both running around the yard in the gear I've poured my entire soul into changes everything. It puts the last few years of literal blood, sweat, and tears right into perspective.
Knowing there are millions of you out there lacing up our gear every single day - many of whom are Dads - ties Father's Day all together. It connects my why - from my customers, straight back to my sons.
So today, I didn't want to just send you some generic corporate holiday greeting. I want you to know I feel what you feel. I understand the daily grind. I know the toll of the early mornings, the quiet sacrifices, and the heavy guilt we carry when the job takes us away from the people we love.
If this note resonates with you, it's a clear sign that you aren't just a Dad.
You're a great one. Happy Father's Day from my boys and I to you and yours. Enjoy it.
You've damn sure earned it.
En Giroard Eric Girouard, Founder & CEO
This morning felt very different though. I have been getting used (gladly) to waking up with her smile and today with her holding my finger.
That was the best gift ever and getting to take photo with her and my dad :)
Happy Father’s Day
If you're not a father and are thinking about it, just jump into it, it's the most phenomenal and rewarding experience!
Yeah, these days it kind of just sucks and days like this just makes it so much worse. This is not the fault of anyone here, this is my battle. Absolutely take this day and all the others in your stride.
I know it's difficult but keep going, I know you will. Be strong, I send you my best vibes and hope that you get some good news on that relatively soon.
I truly wish you the best, I'm sure you'll be phenomenal parents.
Happy Fathers Day to all the dads here. And happy Father's Day to my own Dad, who isn't with us anymore, but gave me a great upbringing and lessons I'll carry with me the rest of my life.
We sometimes flirt with the idea of having more, but we are sadly done. The years fly by. It is truly a wonderful experience.
Happy Father's Day to all of you out there!
- lost him 2 months later
- FML
you are more than any superhero in any universe
Happy Fathers Day!
I learned too late the lessons qwerpy expressed very well in https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=48623191.
"how am I gonna teach all the good things"
I propose that you eschew the temptation to overwhelm the child with activities that you enjoy. A more subtle approach could work better: for instance, rather than insist on learning a specific music instrument in a rigid schedule, leave one within reach. Play it yourself and later (may be days later,) when the child picks it up, drop_the_phone and really, genuinely express your happiness and appreciation!
In general, let the child show you what intrigues them and then purchase whatever could help deepen their interest. However, now that you've made a purchase, don't go: "I bought this and now you've lost interest; such a waste of money." Their interests naturally bounce around and may come around again. See this not as a waste but an investment.
Anything (your time or your purchases,) that spurs them to discover their intrinsic motivation, is as an investment. Not all investments yield a positive ROI but given enough investments and enough time, your participation and your attention compounds!
I was with a young father this weekend, celebrating his son's 1st birthday. I'll leave you the advice I gave him and wish I had: time with your boy is not fungible. Given where you are in your career, you might feel extreme pressure to put off activities with your son. Don't! Rather than insist on doing something fun only when your calendar has a tiny opening, see every moment the child gives you his attention, as a tremendous gift. Don't waste it but (to the maximum extent possible,) drop whatever you're immersed in and fully give him your attention and time. Show him in that instant, how much he means to you. This too is an investment with a very long term ROI.
In due course, as a child grows up, the role their parents play in their mind-space, starts to shrink. Before then, there's a window in which a boy's hero is his father. Don't blow it by thinking you can ignore him then and make up later.
"how am I gonna teach all the good things"
Be open to your child teaching you many more good things too.
Finally, resist the temptation to show them a smartphone or screen, for as long you can [1]:
"These studies are more evidence that it’s a good idea to avoid lots of screen time in infancy (birth to 18 months). Infants just don’t have the cognitive skills to learn from screens at this age, and it gets in the way of activities that build brains, such as talking to infants, back-and-forth play, singing, or reading together. Research shows that products or programs claiming they are able to help babies learn language or regulate emotions are not telling the truth."
(father of two girls)
[1] https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/media-and-children/cente...
Love him, be there for him, don’t reject him. You only need to meet around 30% of a child’s emotional needs well enough for them to feel secure and not be traumatized.
And don’t worry, he won’t be homeless just because you didn’t sign him up for pottery class on a Friday evening.
And for those who had a particularly difficult childhood, for those who may still struggle with the trauma of abuse and neglect, here are some resources you may find useful:
* "Adult children of emotionally immature parents" by Lindsay Gibson.
* https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+EstrangedAdultC...
It takes time, but there are people and resources that can help you. You are not alone.
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It'd be silly to reply to the threads that don't interest me.
I do think New Year's on the Gregorian Calendar is up there, and the soccer World Cup does well, too.