It's just that lots of owners want a company that pulls them away from all other areas of life.
I am on Dutch subreddits a lot, to get a local pulse and not to be too HN minded.
A lot of them would have vilified you by now. Some even would have even questioned your morality.
Again, I agree with you. But clearly not everyone has this view.
In retrospect, many companies you get turned down from are likely companies you don't want to work for anyway hence the incompatibility.
It may be hard, but positive mindset will go very far towards enhancing your outcomes - you need to bring others up around you as well. Pause on this and think about the first thing that comes to mind when you respond to these words.
> you need to bring others up around you as well
I am not 100% sure what you mean here, but I don't think that I have the authority or reputation to "bring up others." I find that telling other people what to do is futile, and the best I can do is leave them alone and let them learn from their experiences, or else you might be labelled a "rock star," which is coincidentally being discussed on lobste.rs right now:
https://lobste.rs/s/uvwcdo/cleaning_up_after_ai_rockstar_dev...