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Remind YC: It's Valentine's Day. Don't forget the flowers and card for your s.o.

27 pointsiamelgringo32 comments

I'm just saying, some of us can be a little forgetful of such things...

I was hoping that Hacker News would be the place that I wouldn't have to hear about v-day.

You cruel, cruel man...

I'm with you on this one. Tonight, while couples are happily enjoying each other's company, I will be eating dinner at a dining hall in my college.

There's some corresponding girl who's going to be eating alone too. Why not ask her to go have coffee with you afterward? Unless the college is Caltech, in which case never mind.

Or most any other math/science/engineering oriented school.

Well, I'm going to NYU, so theoretically my being a heterosexual male already gives me an advantage.

This was the key to ending my loneliness years ago. Once I realized that there were great women who were just as alone as I was, I suddenly had motivation to go out and look for them.

I was thinking more irrelevant than cruel.

I find it very satisfying that although my wife and I are getting divorced, I can still kiss her good morning, wish her happy Valentine's day and tonight I'll probably tell her to have a good time on her date as I hug her goodbye!

Nothing about our relationship has ever really been conventional :-)

Flowers? Card? Good sentiment, but I'd try something from the heart: paintball, horseback ride, hot air balloon trip, have the in-laws watch the kids while you two disappear to the sleazy motel around the corner for a few hours, or just bake him/her a huge chocolate cake and eat it naked in front of the fireplace with a nice Zinfandel.

That first sentence was so depressing. Are you really being serious?

As far as divorces go, that's just about the sweet spot.

I am absolutely serious! Why do you find it depressing? I think it's a celebration of who we are that we're able to give each other what that person really wants.

Valentine's Day should be about love for those around you and she and I love each other. We just shouldn't be married and we're lucky to have figured that out before we began to hate each other.

Ideally, that "figuring out" would have happened before the marriage part, no?

The real world is far from an ideal situation!

Significant other? Is that one of the things that come along with taking VC funding?

There's a reason people say that the most important thing for a bootstrapper to have is a good divorce lawyer. :-)

He must mean co-founder.

> It's Valentine's Day. Don't forget the flowers and card for your s.o.

Are you only supposed to care about your S.O. one day a year? Shouldn't you be nice every day?

I suggest not buying flowers and a card daily.

Do you have an S.O.? While you may have one who is anti-V-day (which is fine), but I'd imagine that even the one who "doesn't really care much" would probably be a little disappointed if you made NO effort to do something just a little special.

Of course, you should be nice every day, too. I think that's pretty understood.

Sitting on the dining room table waiting for her return from work, then we're off to dinner + dancing :)

You're sitting on the table? Not sure she'll like that.

Hey, if we're on the topic of a Valentine's Day thread, I figure I'll ask a question that's never been worth an Ask HN: how do you start-up people deal with relationships when you spend a lot of your time intensely focused on the work you're doing or want to do?

Keep in mind that I'm not in a startup yet, but I have worked in several intense jobs and professions in the past. It is my opinion that you should never regularly put in more than 10 hours a day except for the occasional short crunch period. It is also my opinion that one day per week should have no more than 4 hours of work in it. That should give you a few hours for dinner and a movie on a fairly regular basis.

I just don't think it's valuable to put in more time than that in the long run. Does anybody disagree?

I'm not in a startup either, but my thought has always been, you put as much effort in as interests you. The goal is to get an idea good enough to make you want to obsess over it.

I guess my problem is that I keep hoping I'll meet a girl who feels the same way. Every girlfriend I've had has been less intense (I think that's the word I want?), and as a result when I get into these moods where I want to write for 8 hours straight, or code like mad, or whatever, she doesn't understand. And then, in turn, they never have these moments that I do, where you pour yourself into something and suddenly have something magical and your own.

I hope there're girls like that: I've met a few guys like that, but never girls. A guy can dream, I guess.

For good friends, you've got to put the effort in and block out the time, otherwise you'll always make excuses and say "I'm busy".

With women, (I'm 22) I don't really care at this point. If a confident girl comes along that fully understands the sacrifices and lower attention she'll get to make a business successful, then great.

The demands of a startup have to be somewhat similar to a baby. It needs you just about 24/7, can't do anything on its own, and needs the full support and unselfish attention of both parents.

If a girl is going to be constantly upset because the "baby" is getting more attention than her, she'll figure out really fast that she's got two choices - leave or help out. Obviously that's tough when you're trying to get to know someone, so for now I enjoy the lack of obligations to make a good relationship happen.

FORGET cards and flowers, I'm BUILDING a gift. Right now.

Singles Awareness Day? Bah, Humbug!

Do I smell a Hacker News-based dating site around the corner?*

*I really, really hope not.

If you don't have a significant other today: www.goodcrush.com

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That doesn't really solve the problem of not knowing anyone to date.

my god, that is like somebodylikesyou from back in the day. spam-o-rama?

Insensitive clod! ;)

so you do hallmark holidays?

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