It’s a pity your father’s perspective didn’t prevail. We’d all be using better programming languages now.
Where this becomes extremely Rorsarch is the spectrum between "notation is absolutely critical: there is only one correct representation of programs in people's heads and we have to match that exactly" vs. "all program text is ultimately syntactic sugar and programmers will just adapt to whatever". History tells us that the C choice of = for assignment and == for equality testing won, but of course that's not a choice in a vacuum and it's tied up with a thousand other choices.
> ultimately DRAM is mutable
Ultimately the CPU executes machine code, but I don’t see you directly writing that. You’re cherry-picking to defend an indefensible position.
primes = 2 : sieve primes [3..]
sieve (p:ps) xs = let (h, t) = span (< p*p) xs in h ++ sieve ps (filter (\n -> rem n p > 0) t)
Here `primes` is a variable that refers to itself in its definition (called corecursion), and `sieve` is a recursive function.