Let's be honest. Being a real man is approaching 100 women, getting rejected 100 times, and still approaching number 101. That's the basic reality for men. All that rejection makes men callous. The author, from an all boys school, hasn't been beaten down by it. He runs into men in college for the first time who have been rejected and demoralized by women their entire lives, and he has no empathy with those men. He can't, because he's from the all boys school where all his knowledge of women comes from unrealistic books, movies, anime, etc. Portrayals where the dorky boy has half a dozen love interests, they all banter with him, they're like stray cats who are all cute in their own way, and his biggest problem is choosing which one he really wants... the hard to get one of course. It's not like that in real life at all. Those are just fantasies for children, because telling boys the truth would be like telling them there is no Santa.