what i understood is that "showing up on their suggested friends list is creepy, and it's an information leak". the way i read that is that they would prefer not to show when someone visited their profile. and that's what i consider creepy.

sure, showing up on suggested friends is weird. the way linkedin does it makes more sense: "these people have viewed your profile". i was picking up on hiding it outright. while that may be justified in your case, it's also reasonable to let them know.

the only people i would really not want to find out that i look at their profile are spammers and scammers (oh, and stalkers).

so both sides have a fair reason. so guess, if you can, choose the social network that works the way you prefer.

but the reverse is true too. if you look someone up, don't be surprised if they find out. really, i don't see how that would be a big deal.

with more and more illegitimate tracking being done, informing those being tracked seems a benefit, not a drawback.

there is a difference however between one institution tracking who all the people are that i am looking at, vs the person i am looking at finding out for themselves who is looking at them.