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I mean, this guy seems absolutely clueless. Anyone with even the slightest social awareness would know this site is going to result in hurting people and people are going to really dislike him for making it... and further his own conduct is super immature (wtf is [0])... He basically made a harassment service, complete with allowing anonymous posting? Definite "FAFO" moment. I don't feel a shred of sympathy for his situation.

When you build social technology, you have a responsibility to put some serious thought into what the social effects are of what you're producing. Every feature will have social and psychological implications for the people using the service. If you don't care about that, you especially shouldn't even be trying to make social-related software.

[0] https://monyatwu.com/blog/iitsocial/pic7.png

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honestly, i do not get the hurting people thing. like ok, i do get it, but i just feel like people should be more thick skinned in general, people have said a lot of stuff about me too... but i just dont care. and like ok, if you do care, just report the post, i would have taken it down. why do you need to call the police and tell the dean to kick me out? that's just very malicious. and i mean i kind of get why people were writing bad stuff about people like these

Hurting with words via live speech is one thing. A website amplifies it and makes it permanent.

When people say stuff, only other people around them hear, and even then it can be denied. When people write things online, what they write is public for everyone to read, and it's permanent, forever screenshotted and reposted.

The irony is this blog post is a massive self-own. Without a doubt, for the rest of your life some percentage of people you interact with will google you and read this post and close a door you wanted to go thru in your face. But at least it was your own choice, and it’s based on truth. For everyone who got slandered on your site it wasn’t their choice, and it may not even be true.

And door that would be closed because of this blog is not one i would ever want to get in anyways.

We’ll see.

> if you do care, just report the post, i would have taken it down.

But people explicitly asked you to take things down, and you refused from the very start.

So you basically created a cyberbully site and your excuse is people should be more thick skinned.

Did it ever occur to you that you are the one having a problem? Maybe you have a lack of empathy or sympathy.

They wouldn't need to report it if you hadn't put their names there without permission. Further, you signed them up to be notified of comments without their permission.

Doesn't matter what people wrote about them, the simple fact is that you did that to them with their data. That you can't grasp the concept of crossing private boundaries like that is disturbing. Stop laughing about this and start looking inward.

I don’t know if you will read this, but if you do maybe I can suggest a rule of thumb for posting things under your name publicly.

You should assume that people don’t know you, and they will not give you the benefit of the doubt. So it is in your best interest to make your public image as unimpeachable as possible.

If the person looking at your blog post is a potential employer, they will not spend a long time weighing pros and cons of your employment. They will pass you over and tell you nothing.

>just report the post, i would have taken it down

Last time someone asked to take down a post, you said "bitch come suck my dick" according to your own blog.

> people have said a lot of stuff about me too... but i just dont care.

Hurt people hurt people. You sure seem to have bottled up your own pain with anger weakly disguised as eagerness. I hope you eventually realize you cannot gain the love of your father by “success”. It’s not your fault; he is too traumatized. Nobody else needs to suffer (“develop a thick skin” after repeat bullying which you first experienced and then enabled) just because you had to; it won’t fix your pain, it’ll only make it worse.

I find it hard to blame the young ambitious teenager and much easier to blame the grown-ass adults in supervisory roles who apparently can't cite a single violation by name and later violently steal a kid's phone.

The kid might have some things to learn, sure, but the adult behavior is what I would call "super immature".

I agree about the adults but I can blame both.

The teenager is on a trajectory to become a very capable person, technologically.

They are also behaving like a sociopath and may well be on a trajectory to cause an awful lot more harm than good in the world.

This event could have been a great teaching moment if it was handled by an adult with the capacity to execute on it.

Everyone sucks here and the future is.worse for.it.

I’m actually pretty tired of young ambitious assholes who build themselves off of other people’s misery, and I choose to not celebrate it. That said, the university overreacted.

the "young ambitious" horrible human being. but his "parents are in the army", so it's all good.

That’s harsh don’t you think?

The admin behaviour is expected in the Indian context. See my other comment.

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