I suspect I fall into the former camp, but I'm not sure where to start when it comes to learning how to use llms "the right way".

I'm not a proper software engineer, but I do a lot of scripting and most of my attempts to let a model speed up a menial task (e.g. a small bash or python script for some data parsing or chaining together other tools), end up with me doing extensive rewrites because the model is completely inconsistent in naming convention, pattern reusage, etc.

or you are in denial about what he is saying