This is an excellent post and great reference material. I’ve done this a few times before and the information was scattered all over the place. I appreciate the clear and concise writing here. I even added it to my HN favorites - a rare accolade!
One thing I’d add, is that the best explanation I’ve ever seen for this, is the famous diagram [0] on Wikipedia of the netfilter API — I remember when I saw that, everything clicked into place. I’m not sure how up to date it is now, but it’s really good.
[0] https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Netfilter-packet-flo...