When I first started writing cross-platform apps I was concerned about not matching the OS and having a design that didn’t “jive” with other apps. I have long since realized this was the best decision I could have made. I’m not beholden to either OS’s whims and my apps can look good no matter how much Apple screws up their UI/UX.
At a time when Apple really needs to improve developer relations they threw a massive project at their most die-hard (developer) fans (mostly as a distraction from the failed Apple “intelligence”) which resulted in the people who want to be good OS citizens to have objectively worse apps than those who said “screw it, we will do our own design”.
I’m thankful every day that Alan Dye is gone and will rejoice when Tim Cook also leaves Apple.