I understand why people want to be able to delete things from the internet, but it doesn't work that way. It has never worked that way. It can't work that way unless every computer is locked down to running remotely attested government-approved software, and that's obviously worse.
It was already wayyy too complex. And this? Yeah, they (you? sorry) really need to just give it up.
Permissioned / private data is non negotiable for any social media tech trying to gain mass adoption.
The entire point of services like Bluesky and Twitter is broadcasting your activity out to the internet for anyone to see (which of, course, is technically little-or-no different from "grab")
You seem rather confused. I do not work for Bluesky. I am an independent developer building completely separate applications on ATProto.
Also, ATProto can be much more than social media tech, more like a plug-n-play distributed system