* nginx with letsencrypt wildcard so I have lots of subdomains
* No tailscale, just pure wireguard between a few family houses and for remote access
* Jellyfin for movies and TV, serving to my Samsung TV via the Tizen jellyfin app
* Mopidy holding my music collection, serving to my home stereo and numerous other speakers around the house via snapcast (raspberry pi 3 as the client)
* Just using ubuntu as the os with ZFS mirroring for NAS, serving over samba and NFS
* Home assistant for home automation, with Zigbee and Z-wave dongles
* Frigate as my NVR, recording from my security cams, doing local object detection, and sending out alerts via Home Assistant
* Forgejo for my personal repository host
* tar1090 hooked to a SDR for local airplane tracking (antenna in attic)
This all pairs nicely with my two openwrt routers, one being the main one and a dumb AP, connected via hardwire trunk line with a bunch of VLANs.
Other things in the house include an iotawatt whole-house energy monitor, a bunch of ESPs running holiday light strips, indoor and outdoor homebrew weather stations with laser particulate sensors and CO2 monitors (alongside the usual sensors), a water-main cutoff (zwave), smart bulbs, door sensors, motion sensors, sirens/doorbells, and a thing that listens for my fire alarm and sends alerts. Oh and I just flashed the pura scent diffuser my wife bought and lobotomized it so it can't talk to the cloud anymore, but I can still automate it.
I love it and have tons of fun fiddling with things.